Updated: Aug 10, 2019
Winds of Change. That seems to be the theme lately.
I wanted to share with you something I've been working to change within myself.
Whether we are starting out, in the middle of or far into the path, we recognize aspects of ourselves such as behaviour, perspectives and patterns that no longer serve us. When we recognize them, we naturally WANT to shift that for ourselves but sometimes get stuck or spin our wheels in the mud before we can gain traction.
Whenever we decide to change a pattern or a behaviour, it is healing and energy work. It does take time and commitment. But it also requires that you give yourself grace with the process. It will ebb and flow. It will never be straight forward. If it is a straight forward path for you, you are one luuucky person! The process may happen quickly and/or it may take some time.
So here is my thing...I take commitments seriously. Relationships, projects, you name it. When I commit to something or someone, it's as if I put on these blinders on and it becomes a ride or die commitment. Like a horse with blinders on. I have a tendency to not let go when I need to or move on when I need to. I used to consider myself a failure if I couldn't see it through or that one thing didn't work out. I sometimes did let things go and moved on, but not nearly as much as I should have.
To be honest, I feel my approach to this is an imbalance for me. This is something I have noticed I've done for a verrrry long time but did not address until about 4 years ago. When I decided to address it at that time, my first step was to acknowledged that imbalance within me. And I'm actually still working on keeping a healthy balance with it. It's always going to be a work in progress.
The first thing one can do to initiate the shift in the energy surrounding a change in a pattern or behavior is to acknowledge it. You can talk yourself through it, record it in a diary or journal. Doing this initiates our own inner healing and energy work.
You will innately know when it is time to shift gears. Whether you heed that guidance or not, is the question. When that feeling comes up, don't fear it. Question it. Ask yourself, Higher Self, your Guides....am I done here? Have I done enough? is it time to move on? Is it time to change this?
You will see the answers in the days and weeks to come if not immediately. You will gain more clarity on it. It will come in form of synchronicities whether it is a conversation you hear, a talk on the radio, a song, a sign, a dream, a page in a book you opened up to. The synchronicities will start falling into place such as books to help you understand it, life situations that will keep coming up for you to address it as well as teachers, healers and friends who can support you along the way.
Once you see those validations/confirmations, send love to it (behaviour, pattern, person, etc) and set the intention to change or release it. Once you do that, things will start to wrap up naturally for it. What you need to do or say will come to mind to get things done. People and events will fall into place that will start to make that shift happen.
Keep in mind as with any type of energy work....drink extra water, get the extra sleep in when you feel you need it and expect things (mental and emotional) to come up front and center for resolution.
As you do this kind of work for yourself, you will notice the more self development work you do, the more you see the patterns and behaviours within you which you've never noticed before or perhaps didn't want to address. These are the aspects about ourselves that are bubbling to the surface as you continue to heal, evolve and grow.
There is a time and a place for everything.
For me, what it came down to is... it is one thing to give up prematurely on a commitment and it is another to insist on walking against the winds of change when it is time shift gears. I wasn't listening to my guidance and it got so bad that it came to a point where I could no longer ignore it.
Change is good. Change is growth. Change is evolution. If change isn't happening, you aren't growing. Seek to grow and evolve. If your pattern is that you seem to remain stuck, then acknowledge that and work on it from there. And this reminded me of a quote and it goes:
"Life is change. If you aren't growing and evolving, you're standing still, and the rest of the world is surging ahead.” ~ Louise Penny